Ask a woman what she doesn’t want in a man, and you will get a long list of red flags, things she has discovered to be absolutely toxic, all thanks to her past relationships. But what about the green flags? Why are we paying such little attention to the must-haves? Men are not made in the movies and out of Fairy Tales. They are all around us, showing us their worth, waiting for us to take notice. So, if you are looking for love or are already in a relationship wondering where it’s headed, read on…
1. He is Always There to Speak to You
Open communication is one of the biggest green flags in a guy. If you see him speak uninhibited about his feelings, he is definitely a keeper. He values honesty and is not going to ghost you when the going gets tough. Even on his worst days, he will not shut you out. He may be mad at you for doing or saying something, but he will still communicate, telling you clearly he just needs a little time to sort it out for himself. More importantly, this guy will listen to you when you talk, even if it is the same thing over and over again. He will validate your feelings when you are vulnerable and confused and keep you afloat. Deep conversations will be as easy as lighthearted banters with him, and that’s how a relationship should be.
2. He Respects Your Boundaries
Ask him for physical space or emotional boundaries when you need it, and this man will give it to you. There will never be a lack of trust if you need to take some time off. Your time with him is important, and so it is with your family and friends, and a green flag guy will not make you feel guilty of it. This can only happen when the relationship is bound by respect with zero insecurity and no need to control.
3. He Supports Your Independence
If he says he wants you to be your first priority, he is the man you should not let go of. He understands and supports your independence, your work, and your ambition. He doesn’t judge you and takes keen interest in pushing you towards your goals. He doesn’t just say he is proud of you but shows that pride in action, expecting you not to compromise on your dreams for the sake of the relationship. That’s how an equal partner should be.
4. He Treats Everyone With Respect
So, it is the honeymoon period and he is being his chivalrous best, but have you ever noticed how he treats others? Pay attention to how he interacts with his juniors, waiters at the restaurant, salesmen at the mall, and strangers. A man who is raised well and is genuinely kind and considerate will demonstrate respect unconditionally.
5. He Takes Accountability for His Actions
Every relationship has a giver and a receiver, and you don’t have to be either. A healthy relationship with a green flag guy has to be mutual. You can take the first step, but don’t go all in. If he is genuinely into you, he will initiate plans as well. Owning up is important, and a genuine man will not only own up to his responsibilities in the relationship but also own up to his mistakes. If he can say sorry, putting his ego aside, he is a high-value man.
6. He’s Emotionally Available
Yes, the physical aspect of the relationship cannot be undermined. Great chemistry and biology are important, but so is emotional availability. Intimacy is not just about long hugs and never-ending kisses; it is about the emotional connection that binds your core. A true green flag will never play games and keep you guessing about where you stand in the relationship. You know it because he shows it.
7. He Prioritizes Your Well-being
The dates are great and the time spent is super romantic, but a green flag guy will always be concerned about your health and well-being. He will check in on you when you are having a bad day, make sure you don’t skip your gym and eat healthy. If he genuinely cares about your overall well-being, not just in a romantic sense, don’t let him slip away.
There will be men who will give you attention and make tall promises, and then there will be a man who is a walking-talking green flag. Make sure you don’t let him pass by. If you are lucky he will also be super hot, funny, and gorgeous, but now you know what you should not compromise on.
MAHRUKH SHAH
I navigate life with the wisdom of a seasoned therapist, a trusted confidante, and a great friend. I believe every relationship has its own rhythm, and one can only achieve it with empathy and understanding. When it comes to mental health, I’m all about breaking stigmas and meaningful conversations. Parenting? I’ve got a playbook for every stage, from toddler tantrums to teenage dilemmas. Wellness isn’t just a buzzword; it’s a way of life, and I'm trying to find balance, peace, and self-care in the chaos of everyday living.